Wednesday, August 8, 2012

one practice for happiness

I've been feeling quiet this week, life and controversy sapping my energy to contribute to the online dialogue. Just little sadnesses, world-weariness, the end of summer, the feeling that there is nothing new under the sun, and nothing new to say; at the same time, the nagging suspicion that there is something new, if we could just get out and find it.

I'm supposed to be reviewing a certain book on happiness, but instead of reading it, I've been dipping into another book, The Happiness Project. (Critical background knowledge for reviewing the other book, I tell myself).

The Happiness Project has been on the bestseller list for seventy-some weeks now, so doubtless you know the idea behind it: Gretchen Rubin, a woman with a life which she realizes should make her extraordinarily happy, sets out to be happier in it. The book is her memoir of "a year trying to sing in the morning, clean my closets, fight right, read Aristotle, and generally have more fun."

I have no plans for engaging in a year long project of this sort, but I am working to form one habit - just one - which always makes me feel better.

First thing in the morning, I step pajama-clad onto the back porch, and look at the sky. Listen to the birds. Get grounded. Say good morning to God.

And before I crawl into bed at night, I re-visit the porch (or, call it what it is, the cement slab), and stare into the stars, and listen to the crickets, and breathe; until I feel small, and loved, and chilled; and I say goodnight.

Have you read this book? What small habits make you happier? I'm also considering taking up bed-making...

5 comments:

Katie said...

I'm a big fan of bed-making. Sometimes if we don't get to it in the morning I'll come home from work and do it! #nerdalert
It's just much more enjoyable to get in to a made bed.

Dan said...

Taking a walk around the neighborhood--no screens, no phones, no mediation between me and the trees, yards, neighbors, homes...the small, barely noticeable idiosyncrasies that make one family them and
not another, one yard unique against the others. Maybe a tuft of flowers, maybe a stray children's toy left in the middle of the sidewalk or a chalk drawing in a driveway.

Being present to the moment.

July was tough for me because of the extreme heat and humidity, but I'm planning to get back on track with it asap.

Katy Sammons said...

I am working from home today, so I made my bed for the first time in ages!

I decided at the end of June that beginning July 1, I would try not to buy any books for the rest of the year. I have plenty that I have yet to read, and I have access to church and public libraries. I wanted to do it to reduce unnecessary consumption. (Too often, I buy books on a whim and never actually read them.) But little did I know that my choosing to reduce consumption in this area would spill over into other areas, where I am much less tempted, and overall, I have been much happier for making this choice. The irony is that I thought buying books contributed to my happiness!

John Lepine said...

I saw your tweet about spending the first and last minutes of the day outside, so I went to journal on the back porch two nights ago. But then the weather was so nice that I just grabbed the eggshell mattress pad and a couple blankets and slept outside until sunrise. I also did this last night. It's great.

Jenn LeBow said...

I love Gretchen Rubins' book and blog!

One thing I have started doing to increase my happiness is to pause mid-afternoon at the same time each day, make a cup of tea, and sit and give thanks for one thing. It doesn't have to be a big thing.

But I echo the bed-making people here. It just makes the whole room look clean to me.

And now I'm pretty curious about what book you're reviewing... ;)